“Habit, for these, is also the garment they wear, and indeed the very structure of their body life.”
Mary Oliver- American poet, winner of the National Book Award and the Pulitzer Prize
According to psychology we will justify anything trying to hold on to our old habits. Our own self-image is one of our most guarded possessions. We will do anything to hold on to our fears and insecurities. Over the years we learn a lot of tricks to hide them. Based on those insecurities we imagine how we must appear to others. Very often it is far from the reality. The biggest challenge for most of is that we will fight new ideas and hold to an old ones at all costs, and we are not even aware of it. The main reason for this is that habits live in our subconscious mind. For example, we will choose unhealthy food options just because we believe it is safe. Becoming healthier and ultimately more beautiful is an absolutely terrifying thought for a lot of women. We think who am I to be beautiful? Actually- who are you not to be?
Old habits and your image are in constant conflict. Are you still wearing the same style as you did 10 years ago, even 20 years ago? Are you telling yourself every morning that you have nothing to wear? These are your old habits trying to hold you back! To solve this conflict you need to develop a positive body image.
A good place to start is to take a pen and write a new goal for your self- I am becoming a beautiful, confident and very elegant woman! Now it is time to do it, bite the bullet, don’t put it off until later: just do it, as they say. Writing your goals and affirmations is a powerful tool and remember to frame them in the present tense not future tense otherwise that is where they will stay, forever in the unattainable future.
Next time: 10 style tips to help you improve your confidence